But here's something personal
I've been listed on the Seattle Polyamory Mailing List member's page for a long time, even though I haven't participated on that mailing list for a really long time. I just got tired of the bickering on the list. Anyway, today someone in my overall org actually came to my office and asked me out after seeing me listed there and realizing that I work in the same building.
Isn't that like an HR violation in the making? Anyway, I wasn't offended, I mean, I've been listed there for so long, and I keep forgetting to ask to be removed. So I just told him so, and he went away, looking pretty damned embarrassed. Poor guy, all the way from Noosa Australia too!
But it seems logical to mention here that I have no intention to return to polyamory. It's been a roller-coaster ride, and I realized that what it satisfied in my life were areas that shouldn't be dependant on romantic relationships with other people. I still believe that it's a valid lifestyle, don't get me wrong, but I've decided that it isn't for me. I'm tired. I want to settle down. I want to raise my son and have more babies. I want to get married to one person, live a rich life, grow old, and die. That's a good thing about on-line dating, people don't mind if you are seeing several people at the same time.
And as much as some of you might think this has to do with Chris, it has just as much to do with me. Though it doesn't hurt that he's the only person I've met who seems to be utterly without pretension, and he loves me even if I AM a big jerk, without pretending that it's one of my strengths.
Needless to say, I requested to be removed from that page. ;-)